The sun was yet to rise, but
she was already collecting the bed sheets to be washed. This time she could not
be excused for not washing them. She Took care not to touch the curtains as she
crossed the passage to the bathroom. There was a door mat that could obstruct
her from entering the bathroom However she managed to jump over it and succeeded
in entering bathroom without touching them .She unturned the red plastic bucket
kept in the dark corner and a steel mug kept beneath it. Cold water flew in through the taps and being
a winter morning, she could feel the chill in her spine. All her life she has
hated to bath in cold water in winters. Again she tried hard to Pull the towel
out of the bathroom wardrobe without touching others Towel or underclothes.
4.00 am.
Walking through the woods,
beating the harsh winter with water dripping through her just washed hair, without
a sweater or woolen was indeed a tough task. She heard some chants of Lord Ayappa
far away , indicating that some of the pilgrims were coming that way. She
walked silently trying her best not to be noticed by them. And then at a
secluded spot, she disposed the plastic cover into the pit, and covered it with mud.
Filled with guilt and
negative thoughts all over her mind, She rushed back home.
Fortunately her parents
did not wake up. She walked through the pavement as if she was soiled and
touching the walls or curtains would soil them too. It dreaded her to rinse the bed sheets and
dry them at the window grill. Wet bed sheets were so heavy. This is when she thanks
the inventor of washing attaching for attaching a dryer component to it.
She passed three hours
filled with boredom staring at a wall. She sat there silently in the corner with
her legs folded and chin stationed on her knees. Only then she smiled, when her
mother entered her room with the morning coffee.
Her mother placed the
steel glass on the floor and moved away. Lakshmi lifted it with utmost care not
to spill the tea, filling the glass to its brim.
“Make sure you wash it in
the bath room and keep it beside the kitchen door. Do not enter Kitchen”
Her mother warned and moved
to the next room, “And yes don’t touch the curtains”.
Lakshmi frowned. She
loathed this part of the year, When her Dad is on his 45 days fast to his visit
to Sabarimala and the seven days during that month she is menstruating. She is
devoid of life. She cursed her principal for declaring a Study leave in this
month, Else she could have spent the entire day in the college. She wouldn’t have
to take care not to touch curtains, or not to enter living room, dining hall or
the kitchen, or not be treated as an untouchable at her home.
This is the only time of
the year; she hated herself for being a WOMAN
hmmm we still beleive in all these rituals .. sad sad
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Yes. Sadness is in knowing that it still exists somewhere..
Deletethanks for reading
an honest and brutal portrayal of reality....nicely put
ReplyDeleteThank you Nikhi.
DeleteThis practice is more in South of India and in China. By asking them to sit separately for these 3 days, the family is advertising to the entire world what is happening with her daughter. Very sad.
ReplyDeleteThank you SG.
DeleteThis is such a brutal reality... I wonder if there is any difference in treatment between a mensurating woman and an animal. They are forcibly estranged from their own homes. At least thank God that they make her go through this once in a year - when her father is taking vratham to Sabarimala. Because I kniw families who follow this on a monthly basis. They are not even allowed to sit on a sofa!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this comment.
DeleteIndeed it is brutal, and whats more brutal is no one is ready to accept this brutality And it never going to stop,as we all know. Since out of fear of wrath , we agree to these custom.
I know of a friend who has to stay in her outhouse and sleep on a cement floor during such days. SAD
Right when we actually feel like crap and need all the cuddles and understanding we can get. Practised by the most educated of people, in the most advanced of times. Wow. Humanity has hit a new low.
ReplyDeleteExactly, When a girl is menstruating, it is tough. The mood swings, the cramps, all you need is support. and understanding of course. But then in return you get isolated.I do not say everyone does. But I have seen that it is practiced widely
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